How to Make Up after Arguing

by Gayane Ambaryan

We are not always perfect. We can’t be patient and control our emotions. Sometimes arguments just happen. It’s always hard to understand why they start and find ways to make up. Some people can do that easier, maybe just after arguing, but others need more time to cool off because of pride issues. So it depends on a person. What do you have to do if you’ve argued with your friend, or someone close to you? What should you undertake in situations like that? Maybe just call and apologize or do something else. We’ll find out it in this essay.

First of all, calm down and take a deep breath. Relax. It’s not so easy and sometimes takes a little time. After you calmed down, think about what led up to this argument and the reasons behind your reaction. If you did something wrong, make sure to point to your mistakes. In a different situation could your reaction be different? Give the other person time to cool off; he /she needs time to think over the situation too.

After you analyzed the incident, try to do something to fix the situation. First, call him/her up and try to talk it out and point to your mistakes. It’s always hard to find words in such situations but you can find some for sure. Be sure to ask the other person how he/she feels. If the person is still angry, ask what you can do to make it up. Be patient, control your emotions and don’t argue again, and try to find ways to fix the problem.

Then you can suggest a meeting and try to apologize. It may be the best way to make up and fix the situation. Sometimes it’s best to apologize as soon as you make a mistake, but there are times when you need to wait until you and the other person are no longer angry or in the middle of the argument. Only you are able to evaluate the situation. However, the sooner you apologize, the better. If you are apologizing, make sure to take responsibility for what you did wrong.

So, we tried to find the ways how to make up after arguing: analyzing the situation, calling up and talking and/or maybe trying to meet and apologize. It all depends on your personality and can take a long time, sometimes a few months or maybe longer. Be patient and always careful with your words. After apologizing for something, try to do your best never to do it again.